Tuesday, September 08, 2009

controversy? really?

So, apparently it was way controversial for the President to give a speech aimed at our country's students, encouraging them to work hard and crazy stuff like that. As we listened to all the pre-speech hype this morning on the radio (et tu, NPR?), I turned to JAM and reassured him.

Me: "You realize that I am a responsible parent who cares about your well-being, right?"

JAM: "Uh... yeah."

Me: "So, you understand that when they air President Obama's speech at school today, you are to close your eyes and cover your ears, do you understand?"

JAM: "Huh?"

Me: "I will not stand for the leader of our country encouraging you to stay in school and to do your homework and to pay attention. You know this is all because I love you, right?"

JAM (catching on): "Oh sure. Of course! That would just be terrible!"


Okay, so beyond the fact that I love when my kids not only get sarcasm but also then choose to play along, I'm more than a bit steamed up. I cannot fathom how people were declaring that a speech given by the President and streamed to schools across the country to send a message about students' responsibilities toward their own educations was inappropriate, indoctrinating, and (GASP!) reeked of that dirty word- socialism. Okay, while I cannot fathom it, I guess it's no secret that there are a multitude of opinions out there about our current President... pretty much like there always is, with every resident of that big white house. The part that makes me the most frustrated is that the people spouting off on the news networks, shouting about their parental rights to control what their children are exposed to, aren't just saying it like it is.

They don't like him. They didn't vote for him. And there's no way that they want their children to be forced to listen to him talk while they're sitting at their public school desks.

Let's be frank. While George the second never did this type of talk directly to America's students, I can imagine that I would have been less than thrilled if my kids were subjected to it. I tried to watch all his big speeches, but I usually found myself more than a bit frustrated, and my television screen usually ended up dirtied by whatever snack food I wound up sending its way. Hell, my appendix almost burst during his 2004 State of the Union address! (Seriously. Surgery the next day. I still have uneasiness about those particular speeches... I don't have many other nonessential inner organs left to lose!)

But here's the thing. I had my issues with George the second, my many, many issues with his decisions, his gaffes, his representations of our country, his actions that would be labeled war crimes if he had been the leader of any other country in the world. Yes, I have many misgivings about his performance as the President of our country for eight long years. So, when I would speak to JAM in the last few years about politics, (c'mon, we live 12 miles outside of DC... we have no choice but to address politics), I would be very honest and open about my opinion of Bush's performance. I never mouthed off to him that I wished for him to have his "teeth kicked in" like a certain "Pastor" (His money quote that I heard on CNN today: "I don't want him to be a martyr. We don't need another holiday. I would like to see him die like Ted Kennedy of brain cancer." Nice, huh? Especially that little could-only-be MLK, Jr. reference, right? Pastor?? How are religious people in his denomination not denouncing this guy left and right??), but instead I spoke fully about my opinion on the wrongfulness of Bush's actions in his position as President.

That's what I find the most disgusting about this whole school-speech-"controversy." Nobody's saying what's at the real heart of it-- did you really feel that this was a socialistic, politicized speech that he was giving? Really? Or is it just that he wasn't your guy back in November, and for whatever reasons, you don't want your children to hold him in high respect? And if that's the case, why is no one articulating the reasons for their opinions? Actual fact-based assessments of his platform or performance? Nope, all I've heard is that he's a socialist or communist (yes, and how many of you could even define socialism and communism for us?), who wants to indoctrinate our children (do your homework kids, and don't forget to push your parents toward supporting a public health care option), and clearly is infringing upon our parental rights to not have our children listen to anyone.

Whew. I'm going to breathe for a second.

Okay, so moving on from things-that-confound-and-infuriate-Dawn to moments-that-Dawn-wants-to-remember. Unfortunately, as JAM reported it, they did not in fact watch the President's speech at school today, because "we didn't have time." Ugh. So instead, he and I watched it together online tonight. As President Obama gave shout-outs to the three students who have overcome some extreme obstacles to persevere and succeed in their educational pursuits, JAM let out a genuinely impressed, "Wow!" When he encouraged kids to take time to read each and every day, JAM enthusiastically responded, "I do that!" And when he went on the path of discussing failure's role in our lives, JAM got it: "Some people think when they fail, they really succeed, because they learn from their mistakes." I asked him afterward what he thought about the whole speech and here's what he had to say:

"It was really good. And he was saying lots of stuff-- pointing out really good students, and he was saying lots of stuff that some of my friends don't do... like paying attention and not bullying. I feel great because he was pointing out expectations that some kids don't accomplish. I'm going to work harder, try to get straight A's on every report card, and straight A's on every progress report. That's my own goal."

So there it is. Barack Obama was my guy last November, for a whole slew of reasons, and I still do truly believe that he is a leader with integrity, intelligence, vision and honesty, which is desperately needed now. So yes, that was definitely a factor in my opinion about the "controversy" about this speech. But honestly, it all comes down to the message, which was clearly as uncontroversial as it could get. With all that people can disagree about in this country, could anyone seriously take umbrage with what he said?


Often baffled and bewildered,

13 comments:

  1. Two words for ya, hon - sore losers. Seriously, I think that's what it's come down to. And yes, it makes me crazy too.

    Oh, and you've still got your gallbladder, right? I've been without mine for 8 years, so I can safely say you can lose that one without much issue. :D

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  2. I am SO disappointed to hear they didn't watch it but had a hunch (when a teacher sent out the link on the listserv...).

    Saw it on line and it was a great speech that I thought would have exactly those reactions that JAM had.

    Hope my family had a chance to watch it by now, otherwise will have to do it when I return.

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  3. We received two e-mails from school yesterday on this topic. They weren't going to show it at noon because of lunch schedules, but they are going to show it on Friday. Parents can send a note home if they don't want their child to watch. Friends with a daughter in a different school have to send in a note if they want their child to watch it.

    Glad you posted about this. I was also thinking about posting something similar. I'm a little depressed at some of the irrational discussions that have been taking place recently. I'm not sure how people can reach the conclusions that they're reaching, and it's frankly a little scary.

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  4. Thanks for this, Dawn! The "controversy" is truly ridiculous.

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  5. Hey, Dawn! I thought I would weigh in as a conservative. I did not vote for Obama, and I disagree with him on many political issues. HOWEVER, I respect the office of the President, and I would have had no problem with my child being encouraged to value education by the leader of our country. I would have felt differently if he was talking to the kids about political hot-button issues, but I don't understand the uproar, given the topic of the speech.

    With that being said, I think you are right when you say that there would have been fuss by many on the "other side" if Bush had given the speech, and it all makes me sad. We are truly losing respect for authority and leaders at all levels in our society, and I think that is a big, big problem. I don't think this is because all our leaders today are scoundrels. We've had good and bad leaders throughout our history, but how we respond to our leaders and authority figures is changing and that is worrisome to me.

    I would also say that I think much of the hoopla is created by the media, both liberal and conservative sources, to create furor and promote ratings. They wouldn't be able to fill their 24 hour news channels without controversy.

    Well, there you have the thoughts of a conservative! Hope it's okay that I shared my two cents!

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  6. Lauren beat me to it, but I also was going to weigh in as a conservative who did not vote for Obama and isn't thrilled about some of the stuff going on.

    My husband had asked if I knew about the controversy. When they printed it online last week, he forwarded me the link with a note that said, "Real subversive, huh?" Yeah--my kids get sarcasm too.

    A note came home with my Kindergartner saying that they were going to "prescreen it" and show it to the 4th graders the day after (this was before it had been released early). Yesterday was crazy, so I forgot to ask Amanda if they watched it in 6th grade. If not, I'll show it to her online.

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  7. I hear ya! Seriously, when the news reported about the controversy my chin must have hit the floor. Are you kidding me? What ever happened to respecting the office of the President. I'm not kidding or exaggerating when I tell you there was a woman CRYING on the Seattle news about how she didn't want her children "Exposed". People drive me crazy!!! Thanks for the venting. ;)

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  8. I appreciate everyone weighing in on this! It can be so tricky to talk politics without getting all huffy (I'm talking about me here), so it's always refreshing when it can be civilized, you know?

    The thing I have trouble with is how the "controversy" was hyped with people making connections between his planned speech and some "hidden agenda," with comparisons made to Nazi Youth Camps and socialistic propaganda. BUT, these same blocs aren't being very vocal about the actions taken by the President that they supported for the previous two terms who has evidence upon evidence piling up that he authorized and put into motion actions that are questionable at the least, and at the most, likely violate Geneva Conventions and basic human rights. So, if one is to make a connection from Obama's speech to Youth Camps, based on 'perceptions' and not actual actions, how can that person NOT be blown away by the irony that the former President that they supported ACTUALLY DID authorize some pretty horrific things while in the office of President? It seems to me as if B is going to naturally follow A in one argument, then you really gotta go all the way to C as well, people.

    And, I guess I have such conflicted feelings about the 'respect the office of the President' declaration. Yes, I think the office is worthy of respect, and likewise when someone first enters the position. BUT... my conscience says that one doesn't get a free pass for terrible behavior just because of the title they hold... In my opinion, even where there are issues that I disagree with Obama, I don't think he has acted in any way or authorized any official US action or policy that is harmful to our, or other nation's people, so I feel that he is well-deserving of such respect. BUT... George W. Bush, on the other hand, and many of the highest officials in his administration? Well, that's a whole 'nother story, in my humble opinion. To me, it goes beyond agreeing or disagreeing on policy or political viewpoint, to a basic level of decency, which I don't think the Bush Administration demonstrated, so I can unequivocally say that I lost any shred of respect I had for George W. Bush while he still held the title of President.

    Okay, okay, I really gotta settle down now and return to talking about cute kids and good books...

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  9. Ok, you won't believe what Patrick said to me when he came home from school. I asked him if he watched it-- He said, "They gave us a choice to watch it or not, but I didn't watch it because I THOUGHT IT WOULD MAKE DADDY MAD." WTF??!!? He knows that Ken is conservative, and decided (without Ken saying anything that I know of) not to watch it. I freaked out. Then Patrick looked at me with horror on his face and said, "He wasn't really THERE (at school) was he??? Because I really want to meet him!" So now I've got to find it online and show it to him myself. How crazy is that?

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  10. So, he was not my guy, but I still don't understand all the controversy. He is the president, it's not like I want to hide my children from him. I mean, what is he going to say to a bunch of kids? They even sent home a note from school warning us, but sheesh! He's just going to tell them school is important. What's he going to do, risk his entire reputation trying to brainwash all of the children of America in one speech? Strange. Besides, I figure my kids didn't listen to a single word of it anyway, so why should I waste a single moment's thought on it?

    ON the other hand. I DO think the little video I heard they played beforehand was a little spooky. A bunch of celebrities saying, "I will be a servant to Barack Obama," over and over? That's a little strange. Why don't we serve our country instead? And why do we care what any celebrities have to say? Those are my questions. Let's get back to patriotic leadership and steer a little further away from celebrity please . . .

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  11. Can't say it any better than you and your other people, but I do want to say that I think that's one cool kid we made huh?

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  12. Just another note-- @Cami, you had me intrigued with what you mentioned here, but I hadn't heard about that video, so I looked it up online. It seems that there was some controversy in a Utah school (elsewhere, too, I don't know?) when a principal decided to show this video to students. It should be pointed out that the video was made NOT by the administration, but by members of Hollywood back during the early days of the President's term as a show of support.

    While I agree that this was not appropriate fare for school (I wholeheartedly agree about our culture's celebrity worship, and I would cringe at that tactic being used to encourage my children to do ANYTHING), I still cannot find how anyone can make a serious argument that the video is indoctrinating, or terrible. Watch the video, and besides the line at the end, "I pledge to be a servant to our President and all mankind," the messages are all quite specific about particular things that individuals can do to make positive change in their communities and their country:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=51kAw4OTlA0

    So, I think there's an argument that this wasn't appropriate to be shown in school, but it had NOTHING to do with the speech Obama delivered (the video was released last January), and its message isn't one of blind following, but of making conscious choices in our own lives that can positively affect our world. (My personal favorite? Jason Bateman. Go watch, you know you're curious.)

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  13. Yeah... our district had ummm issues about this, and I've been debating posting about this, especially in the aftermath. ugh.

    Anyway, I have no issue with this being watched in school provided that it's tied into the curriculum. It makes perfect sense for K-6 to watch it. Middle school? Don't have one period watch it so that one math class is now behind and has to catch up to the rest of the ones in school. Ditto with science, etc. But I have this same issue on a regular basis with the non-school-related reasons kids are pulled out of school for assemblies, etc.

    The nonsense though? Drives me nuts. And the people who are holding their kids out of school the entire day becuse of it? STU-PID.

    Oops, did I already start my post?

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